lead, follow, get out of the way, frame clusters, and swimming! swimming! i went swimming!

Migraine Awareness Month #16:  “Lead, follow, or get our of the way.”

Which role fits you and why?

having been a teacher in my professional life, my inclination is to lead. between the migraine and the fibro, though, i am limited in the way that i can do that. really, the best thing i think i can do is to live as well within my circumstances as i can and lead by example.

i follow  migraine.com but no fibro things. too whiny and not helpful enough. i follow  ken macleod on facebook. i generally find buddhist reflections most useful in dealing with my reality as it is now, and he is my favourite teacher.

i don’t know many people who don’t need to learn how to get out of their own way, but having a chronic pain condition, the situation becomes critical. if you don’t get a handle on acceptance you will suffer more than is strictly necessary. and again, the buddhists are helpful with this. i went on a breathworks pain management course, which was very good. their book and guided meditations are good as well, but preferably as supplementary material, rather than as stand alone things. much in the same way as self help books in general are better as a supplement to professional help.

“National Migraine Awareness Month is initiated by the National Headache Foundation. The Blogger’s Challenge is initiated by www.FightingHeadacheDisorders.com.”


fuck your frame cluster wallpaper

‘frame cluster friday’ is a regular feature on this tumblr blog. i find it really interesting, actually, because with a few pithy (okay, sweary) words and a series of illustrations this blog depicts an entire decor – related problem.

it’s less that you know what a noguchi coffee table is, or that you have the money for one, and far, far more that your desire to be achingly trendy outstrips the meaning of ‘what is a home’.

in a real home objects are laden with meaning. an individual,  family or whatever’s passions, family heirlooms, cultural reminders, even aspirational objects and constructions are all reflected in their surroundings. a toy is your child’s toy, a montblanc pen signifies your aspirations.

funny, funky clusters of things are not even play in this context. these frames without content are literally empty signifiers, empty references. things devoid of meaning and deliberately so. i have my friend terri staying here and this morning she told me that the people in the strand bookshop, whose boast is that they have “eighteen miles of books”, cringe when someone comes in and says that their decorator has told them to come in and buy a yard or two of books with orange spines.

dear reader, i plead with you. be eclectic, have fun, but don’t surround yourself with objects which you neither use nor love. /end public service announcement.


hey! i nearly forgot to tell you! i went swimming!!!!

so happy. of course, i have a master plan involving becoming super strong and impervious to triggers. i know this is a bit of a fantasy, but it also is a bit not. because some of my triggers are about my back, and when i did weight training, albeit some time ago, i did notice that when i built muscle i was less susceptible to the kind of back pains that end up referring all over the place and end up triggering a migraine for me.

part of my problem was a little bit of agoraphobia, so i was VERY EXCITED when my friend lottie said she would come to my local swimming pool with me, because now that i have been it is a lot easier for me to go back.

i feel good for it too. i love the little achey feelings from exercise. the ‘good pain’ that means you have worked out. acourse, it did trigger a migraine and i had to take a triptan, but i did that afterwards, and i was just soooooo pleased to have done something that has been on my list for months.


4 thoughts on “lead, follow, get out of the way, frame clusters, and swimming! swimming! i went swimming!

    1. in new york the word ‘decorator’ has a WHOLE different meaning than it does here. people are much more wont to hand over the aesthetic decisions of their environment to an interior designer, and books by the yard is just one horrifying result.

  1. If all they want is a yard of books, they might as well just buy those cardboard spines that furniture shops use. That’d be cheaper, surely.

    That frame paper would drive me mental. I’ve always thought the only possible way to use it would be to put it on a spall space and fill all the frames, like a sort of feature wall (not that I would, because I don’t like it). Otherwise it must be like living in an unused colouring-in book.

    I’ve just been looking through the rest of that tumblr and it has touched on one of my pet hates: the fireplace full of logs. Who are they kidding? It’s so clearly just for show. If they fill the fireplace full of logs, where are they going to burn them? Grah.

    Yay for swimming!

    1. ah, but that would expose their SUPERFICIALITY completely! (as if they didn’t probably have a bizillion other markers for that, and in any case, probably their friends are all just the same)

      i think i am with you on the frame wallpaper. i am the same with anything that has WORDS. i am compelled to read them over and over again, and repeating patterns are nearly as bad.

      maybe for a hairdresser’s or something.

      i really loved the swimming, but unsurprisingly am flaring like crazy on the migraine front. DAMN IT ALL!

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